Monday, July 28, 2014
He disliked him because he found the idea of someone who was not only privileged, but was also sorry for himself because he thought the world didn’t really understand the problems of privileged people, deeply obnoxious. Douglas Adams (via eflind)

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Sunday, July 27, 2014

cafemusaiin:

in honor of the revival of early-2000s internet culture, i’d like to suggest

  • introducing “pwn” back into our collective vocabularies
  • posting old limewired songs that have inserts of bill clinton saying “i did not have sexual relations with that woman”
  • MIDI files for autoplay, featuring hit songs like Evanescence’s “Bring Me To Life” and Linkin Park’s “In The End”
  • neopets forum wars
  • those e-cards with weird 3D gifs like this
  • image

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I think the concept of virginity was created by men who thought their penises were so important it changes who a woman is.

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The most perfect conclusion about how “virginity” came to be I’ve ever encountered.

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punkwarren:

striderdaves:

i love catfish so much because they act like theyre fbi agents or something when theyre really just using reverse google image search

i thought you meant the animal and let me tell you that was a wild minute of me trying to figure out the psychology of fish thinking they’re federal law enforcement

onamelancholyhill:

bettydays:

Let’s just all take a minute to appreciate the kindness of our overlord.

Also, his shirt.

He is awesome. Period.

A thought experiment: Imagine how people might react if Taylor Swift released an album made up entirely of songs about wishing she could get back together with one of her exes.

We’d hear things like: “She can’t let go. She’s clingy. She’s irrational. She’s crazy.” Men would have a field day comparing her to their own “crazy” exes.

Yet when Robin Thicke released “Paula” – a plea for reconciliation with his ex-wife Paula Patton disguised as an LP — he was called incoherent, obsessed, heartfelt and, in particular, creepy.

But you didn’t hear men calling him “crazy” — even though he used it as the title of one of tracks.

No, “crazy” is typically held in reserve for women’s behavior. Men might be obsessed, driven, confused or upset. But we don’t get called “crazy” — at least not the way men reflexively label women as such.

“Crazy” is one of the five deadly words guys use to shame women into compliance. The others: Fat. Ugly. Slutty. Bitchy. They sum up the supposedly worst things a woman can be.

WHAT WE REALLY MEAN BY “CRAZY” IS: “SHE WAS UPSET, AND I DIDN’T WANT HER TO BE.”

“Crazy” is such a convenient word for men, perpetuating our sense of superiority. Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong.

Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.

Small wonder that abusers love to use this c-word. It’s a way of delegitimizing a woman’s authority over her own life.

Most men (#notallmen, #irony) aren’t abusers, but far too many of us reflexively call women crazy without thinking about it. We talk about how “crazy girl sex” is the best sex while we also warn men “don’t stick it in the crazy.” How I Met Your Mother warned us to watch out for “the crazy eyes” and how to process women on the “Crazy/Hot” scale. When we talk about why we broke up with our exes, we say, “She got crazy,” and our guy friends nod sagely, as if that explains everything.


Except what we’re really saying is: “She was upset, and I didn’t want her to be.”

Many men are socialized to be disconnected from our emotions — the only manly feelings we’re supposed to show are stoic silence or anger. We’re taught that to be emotional is to be feminine. As a result, we barely have a handle on our own emotions — meaning that we’re especially ill-equipped at dealing with someone else’s.

That’s where “crazy” comes in. It’s the all-purpose argument ender. Your girlfriend is upset that you didn’t call when you were going to be late? She’s being irrational. She wants you to spend time with her instead of out with the guys again? She’s being clingy. Your wife doesn’t like the long hours you’re spending with your attractive co-worker? She’s being oversensitive.

As soon as the “crazy” card is in play, women are put on the defensive. It derails the discussion from what she’s saying to how she’s saying it. We insist that someone can’t be emotional and rational at the same time, so she has to prove that she’s not being irrational. Anything she says to the contrary can just be used as evidence against her.

More often than not, I suspect, most men don’t realize what we’re saying when we call a woman crazy. Not only does it stigmatize people who have legitimate mental health issues, but it tells women that they don’t understand their own emotions, that their very real concerns and issues are secondary to men’s comfort. And it absolves men from having to take responsibility for how we make others feel.

In the professional world, we’ve had debates over labels like “bossy” and “brusque,” so often used to describe women, not men. In our interpersonal relationships and conversations, “crazy” is the adjective that needs to go.

Men really need to stop calling women crazy - Harris O’Malley  (via lauvra)

Well said, dude. Setting a pretty good example.

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(Source: Washington Post)

thedeadviper:

margaerynn:

a Game of Thrones au where the Starks have teacup pomeranians instead of direwolves

"that one’s yours, Jon Snow"

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forgetpolitics:

I. AM. FUCKING. DEAD.

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thursdaysangel-tuesdaysdemon:

artsy-fallen-angel:

deanslaughter:

thatfunnyblog:

THIS IS A THING THAT ACTUALLY HAPPENED YOU GUYS I CAN’T

Lucifer likes reading.

SATAN LIKE THE FAULT IN OUR STARS PASS IT ON

Of course he does, have you even read the book

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Obviously Robert Downey Jr. is auditioning to play Tuxedo Mask, yes?

missjessicajules:

Misha giving us all Coffee with Random Acts while we wait in line at Hall H at SDCC!

missjessicajules:

Misha giving us all Coffee with Random Acts while we wait in line at Hall H at SDCC!

litahalford:

don’t trust people who finished Orange Is The New Black and still call Suzanne “Crazy Eyes”